Published in Fat. So?·Jul 4, 2021When you don’t trust yourselfYou can’t do anything. This is really the biggest lesson I have learned in (almost) 40 years. I tend to come off as someone who is supremely confident — which I am about many things, but that confidence was earned with painful, traumatic repeated experience. I wasn’t born this way. …Podcast5 min readPodcast5 min read
Published in Fat. So?·Jun 19, 2021Digging deepIt’s funny how we think that things that happened to us many years ago — the “distant” past — have become, by virtue of our having processed or dealt with them, trivial to our current lives. I mean, it makes sense, right? Something that happened 25 years ago, however traumatic…Trauma4 min readTrauma4 min read
Published in Fat. So?·Jun 5, 2021Resigning from adulthoodI would like to turn in my adult card please, thank you. Seriously. I am done! It’s one big racket! Don’t fall for it! All your life, being an adult is seen as the ultimate goal. Grownups know what they’re doing, they have control of shit like the TV and…Podcast3 min readPodcast3 min read
Published in Fat. So?·May 22, 2021If you do not cut me, I will still bleedIt’s been a bit of a week! Things have been super busy — all in a good way — but just to fuck with me, I’ve had a migraine aura for most of it. I’ve had migraines most of my life. They were very bad when I was kid, and…Menstruation5 min readMenstruation5 min read
Published in Fat. So?·May 8, 2021Meet the kittehsI’m struggling to find blog inspiration today, so I thought that, now that Pallavi and I are in the same house and the beasties have had their fatso debut, I should officially introduce y’all. (Pallavi interrupts, “Factually incorrect, Sheru has not had his debut.”) This handsome boi is Nawab Harami…Cats3 min readCats3 min read
Published in Fat. So?·Apr 24, 2021Be kindIt’s a really horrific time right now. I cannot even begin to describe how awful it is to only see desperate pleas for medicines, hospital beds, oxygen cylinders, food, transportation… Of course intermingled with so much misinformation it makes me gasp. And this even though I am safe. Everyone I…Podcast2 min readPodcast2 min read
Published in Fat. So?·Apr 10, 2021The black dogThis week I have been depressed. (I almost didn’t write you this blog post as a result heh.) People are often upset when I say that I’m depressed. They hurry to hush me, to distract me, to tell me it’s not true. “Cheer up,” they say, “don’t overthink.” It reminds…Depression3 min readDepression3 min read
Published in Fat. So?·Mar 27, 2021Something has changed in the MatrixLast night, I went to an event with Pallavi. It has been over a year since I went anywhere nice, so I thought to myself, go on then, get dressed up. I pulled out my long black dress, which I haven’t worn since November of 2019, and actually put on…Fat Liberation2 min readFat Liberation2 min read
Published in Fat. So?·Mar 13, 2021More thoughts on reclaiming the word fatSome regular readers might remember a post I made a long time ago about how we need to stop thinking that fat is a bad word, and just use it as a regular adjective. I’ve had many conversations about that subject since then, and one thing that often comes up…Fat2 min readFat2 min read
Mar 13, 2021Guilt is an ocean to drown inDon’t waste your energy on guilt; it’s the most pointless emotion. Every time I say that, people are a little shocked. Almost as if they had not lost sleep and energy and mental health to guilt. Almost as if they had never been paralysed by guilt, unable to act and…Guilt4 min readGuilt4 min read
